"Do All Marriages Deteriorate Over Time?"

Are all marriages at risk for a relationship breakup and do
all marriages naturally deteriorate over time?  Is a gradual lessening
of passion just a natural evolution in all marriages or long term
relationships?

We just don't think it has to be this way. We believe that if both people
are conscious in their relationship and want to grow together, they do
things on a daily basis that promote a deep connection. When couples
do this, their relationship can only improve with age.

Part of the entertainment was a magic show. The magician was very good
at playing to the crowd and getting them involved in his show.

When it came to the "slice your assistant's head off" act, he chose Susie
from the audience to be his assistant.

In trying to entertain the audience, he made a few wrong assumptions
about Susie and our relationship.

He first assumed that we weren't married because we'd been holding hands
and sitting closer than most "normal married couples" during his act and seemed
to have a recipe for a happy marriage.

Then he tried to get Susie to admit that things in her marriage weren't really
that good and when that didn't work--he then tried to get her to admit that
things weren't as good in our relationship as when we first got together.

Fortunately, Susie came away from the night with her head in tact, but we
came away with a deeper understanding of a common myth about relationships
in our culture.

What we do to keep our relationship alive, connected and strong is that we
both have consciously decided that that is what we want.

We talk constantly about the things that are important to us and we head off
problems before they become unmanageable and out of control.

We express gratitude for our relationship to each other each day and have
done so since the beginning of our relationship.

We are conscious that we may never have another moment together in this
lifetime and because of this, we make every moment precious.
 

These are not just things that we do,  but are the common ingredients of every
successful long term relationship we have read about or heard about.

So, we challenge you that if you are currently in an intimate relationship, to
begin incorporating one or more of these ideas into your daily lives. If you
are not currently in an intimate relationship and want to be, decide how you
want that future relationship to be.

Relationships are just like anything else in this universe of ours. They are either
getting stronger or they're getting weaker. Whether your relationships are getting
stronger or getting weaker, depends on your intentions and what both of you

are willing to put into the relationship.